I've always been a firm believer in the idea that you indicate your state of mind and being in numerous ways, speech sometime being the least of them.
Within the last two days, I've gotten come ons from two disparate women. The odd thing is that I'm not looking. I've been in a long term relationship with Her, one which has its ups and downs just like everything else, being subject to the ebb and flow of human emotions over time.
I went into a local bead store to buy a replacement tie for a Q Link that I started wearing two years ago when I went high altitude trekking. The woman in the store made physical contact in enough ways for me to feel that it was something else beyond just being friendly, touching when there didn't seem to be any reason.
Yesterday I went into the local library and had an overly long conversation with one of the librarians that I've talked to several times before, always about library business. Earlier this summer, she was talking with one of the other librarians about their vast manga collection, and I suggested to her that she look up "hentai" comics, which my friend Elizabeth tells me are Japanese porno comics. Since then, although she's never mentioned it, she's been overly solicitous and friendly, always engaging in whatever conversation she can.
I know I'm not actively putting myself out there, not actively looking, but is there something that I'm doing subconsciously, some way I'm carrying myself, some difference in my stance or gait that's telling people I'm available?